03-12-2018, 01:21 PM
ED, good for your mom. FYI, after about 85 is when my mom started to decline, so watch for signs of slippage. Luckily I managed to set up the will, trust, and power of attorney back while she was still lucid.
Greg, I think I am somewhere between you and your sister. I do take care of things for my mom, not from devotion but because my brother (consciously or not) adopted a tactic of doing nothing so that I had to. I have cut back on visiting her because it's both depressing and tedious; I think now my brother actually sees her more often than I do. I only go twice a month unless she has a doctor's appointment. She doesn't remember when I've last been there, so I feel like it doesn't matter that much. My mother used to be difficult (although nowhere near as bad as your mom) which leaves me less eager to see her than I might be otherwise.
DM, sorry to hear that.
Greg, I think I am somewhere between you and your sister. I do take care of things for my mom, not from devotion but because my brother (consciously or not) adopted a tactic of doing nothing so that I had to. I have cut back on visiting her because it's both depressing and tedious; I think now my brother actually sees her more often than I do. I only go twice a month unless she has a doctor's appointment. She doesn't remember when I've last been there, so I feel like it doesn't matter that much. My mother used to be difficult (although nowhere near as bad as your mom) which leaves me less eager to see her than I might be otherwise.
DM, sorry to hear that.
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