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RE: my mom - Drunk Monk - 04-01-2019
That went horrifically bad. My mom was in so much pain that she could t lie on the mri table with her leg straightened. I mustered all my talk through skills to get her to finally get her leg straight, and then the tech noticed the metal eyelets on her pants. There was no way to get them off and her back in position in time. They were already behind. I thought about taking her to the Er but she wanted to come home. We have an appt tomorrow first thing - it was supposed to be analysis of the mri. I think I’ll be able to get her there. I’ll have help - a caretaker is scheduled and she’ll come along. But I suspect the doc will send her to the Er and get her back in the system. She’s in so much pain now. We’re home at least.
RE: my mom - Drunk Monk - 04-02-2019
Today wasn't too bad. A caretaker's hours overlapped with the appt and she was really helpful. The Doc didn't have a lot to say without the MRI. He still thinks it's a nerve pinch, which stands to reason given how she's presenting. If it was a hip issue, she'd have pain whenever her leg was moved and that's not the case.
Sorting the caretakers is a new challenge. So far, the actual caretakers have been good, except for that no show on Saturday. The agency is a bit weak. They weren't able to communicate the appt to today's caretaker even though I left messages and more importantly, she wasn't given the access code to get in. So it was good that I was here.
Tomorrow's appt has me more worried. It's farther, in San Jose, so it'll be a much longer time for my mom not to be horizontal. It's just me. She's going to be in a lot of pain.
I've taken to watching the sunsets from the living room. I spent time playing here while growing up, listening to the old magnavox stereo, and this is where I played D&D with friends. Now, it's where I eat, where I telecommute and where I watch the sun go down.
RE: my mom - Drunk Monk - 04-03-2019
She’s been admitted to Good Sam where I will spend the rest of today - scheduled for surgery tomorrow or Friday.
RE: my mom - Drunk Monk - 04-03-2019
Surgery is tomorrow afternoon. Looks like there were bone splinters from the kyphoplasty that have been impinging on her nerves. Tomorrow's surgery is more rigorous. That is probably the procedure they should have done initially, but given her age, it was prudent to go with the kypho. If all goes well, she'll be at Good Sam for 3-5 days, then likely back into rehab and the cycle starts all over again. The surgeon said the procedure has only a 3-5% chance of failure, but a larger concern is the anesthetic, which at my mom's age might have a lasting affect.
It was a brutal day. The admission procedure went as smoothly as it could, but my mom was in more pain than ever. No one should have to see their mom in that much pain. Took an IV dilaudid plus oxy to take the edge off. Even then, we couldn't raise the bed all the way so I had to spoon feed her dinner.
This morning brought ill omens. My mom broke a bowl of prunes at breakfast. Then a robin kept trying to get in her window, banging into it repeatedly. My mom said that had been happening for a few days. The same thing happens at our old TC Media office in the spring when the light hits the window in such a way that the birds start flying into it.
RE: my mom - Greg - 04-03-2019
Holy goddamn fuck.
I hope this alleviates the suffering. Both your mother's and yours.
RE: my mom - Dr. Ivor Yeti - 04-03-2019
I second G-Mans “Holy goddam fuck”.
RE: my mom - cranefly - 04-04-2019
I'll add a third HGF.
Chilling and ghastly. Hoping the best for the two of you.
RE: my mom - Drunk Monk - 04-04-2019
My mom is still in intense pain - off the charts pain. She's got a lot of pain med on board, which isn't really taking the edge off but it is making her really incoherent. She's in a semi-fetal position, panting and gasping from the pain. She just said 'I give up' with a peculiar smile. I've been trying to explain to her my understanding of the upcoming procedure, but it's useless really in her current mental state.
RE: my mom - Drunk Monk - 04-04-2019
I'm in the surgery waiting room. It's packed here.
Overall, Good Sam is a little sloppy - there was this issue getting an IV pole for my mom's bed when she was being transported, and there's always empty packets on the floor, waiting for housecleaning. Parking is a hassle and it's a cavernous labyrinth of hallways. The surgery schedule screen doesn't seem to be updating - I left my mom in surgery an hour ago and she's still listed as 'surgery scheduled', not the next level 'patient arrived in pre-op'.
RE: my mom - Greg - 04-04-2019
Changing DM's moniker to 'Dante'
RE: my mom - Drunk Monk - 04-04-2019
Still waiting. There was this huge family in the waiting room that took almost the whole space. I never quite figured out who the patient was, and it was sweet to see them all supporting whoever that was, but they literally took over half the waiting area. They've gone now and there's more room.
There's free coffee & tea, but this place could really use a snack bar.
I'm so tired, a bit headachy too, probably from all the
Dehydration was why I was going to say - lost a lot of water thru my eyeballs. Staying dry eyed while my mom begged in pain was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.
She’s out now, in recovery for an hour. I’m grabbing another bite then I’m to meet her back at her room. The surgeon was satisfied with his work. He said there were no complications. Basically her kypho didn’t tak and had to be repaired
RE: my mom - Drunk Monk - 04-04-2019
I’m now in the waiting room on her floor. They said another half hour or so. It’s quiet and I am alone. It’s a corner room on the 3rd flr with two windows facing the foothills. The Cruz is just on the other side of those hills. There’s a US flag fluttering prominently and clouds covering the sunset. Another sunset.
RE: my mom - Drunk Monk - 04-04-2019
She’s back in her room. She’s very dopey from the anesthetic but has all her motor functions and responds to simple instructions. She’s not in any pain but she still has a lot of meds post operation
Not really talking yet. She’s just trippin on the meds.
RE: my mom - Drunk Monk - 04-04-2019
Today was one of the toughest days of my life.
RE: my mom - Dr. Ivor Yeti - 04-04-2019
Amen, Brother, and I hope you don’t have another like it for a very long time.